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darren lg kena demam.. dr hari sabtu kmrn!
sebabnya krn sabtu pagi kita ngajak darren ke RS carolus nengok Donny kena DB, eh pulangnya darren kegigit nyamuk di pipi padahal sm papanya dah dioles lotion anti nyamuk.

trus ke bu Rita, darren hampir ga ST krn lagi asik bobo dlm perjalanan salemba ke klinik pela.. tp jadinya ya darren bangun n main sm bu Rita sampe siang.

Trus ke bogor.. this time pake route gps.. ikutan jalan kecil yg dilalui bajaj keluar2 di jl. fatmawati.. smpt mampir di superindo daerah fatmawati, trus nengok thaima n nunggu mobil sim keliling di bgr sampe papa beres..
hari sabtu mlm itu darren mulai demam tinggi. minggu pagi siang sampe 39 koma derajat celcius. minggu malem jg sama.. hari minggu kita cuma di rmh aja darren jdnya ga ke sunday school deh.

sy inget sm dr. Indah (general practitioner) yg di RS Brawijaya Children n Women Hospital.. coba utk sms beliau. krn dulu saya prnh batuk2 sampe lama mungkin hampir 2 bulan lebih dari nov akhir sampe awal Feb. akhirnya sembuh total stlh minum obat racikan dari dr. Indah (dr. Zulfa Indah K. Fadli, B. Med. Sc.) Ini juga krn Joy pagi2 denger aku batuk2 and she knows i have had the cough quite long.. and asked me to check to the other hospital. Udah sempet rontgen dan berobat ke dokt specialis paru2 di RS Sahid Sahirman ga sembuh.

saya sms sekali. trus direply sm dokter trus saya lanjut reply di whatsapp. dokternya bener2 bagus n baiiiik deh. Udah nemu dokt baik 5 org di jakarta. dr. Budi n dr. Darwis Darlan.. dokt anak darren yg waktu darren lahir.. dr. Gentur yg labioplasty n palatoplasty darren.. drg. Winarta yg di jl. Kesehatan sama dr. Indah..

ini reply dari dokter Indah:
“Berarti sudah 2 hari demam ya pak? Kalo demam naik turun (dalam artian diberikan obat dia turun kemudian bbrp jam naik lagi) pas hari ke 3 (besok) lebih baik cek darah ya pak.. Cek: Hb, Ht, Leuko, Trombo, IgM dan IgG antidengue, kalo mau extra boleh ditambah NS1 dan CRP. Antisipasi saja, soalnya lg musim hujan. Takut db..”
“Kalo buat demamnya cukup paracetamol saja.. Cara menurunkan panas: dikompres pake air anget2 kuku, minum yg banyak dan paracetamol cukup. Klinik di UOB tdk bisa rawat inap pak, tdk ada kamarnya.. Bapak mgkn bisa ke RS brawijaya kalo mau rawat inap”
Obat batuknya boleh comtusi 3 x 2.5cc atau triaminic batuk.
Penyebab panasnya bisa krn infeksi virus biasa, atau infeksi tenggorokan, atau mungkin db (hal ini bisa dikonfirmasi dr cek darah)”

“ok mksh bnyk dokt. sy mamanya darren. sy cari obat sesuai info dokt dulu.”

“Sama2 ibu, berikan minum yg banyak ya, buat antisipasi bsk cek darah saja, biar aman”

krn darren dah lama ga sakit demam apalagi demam tinggi.. aku tuh agak lupa kudu gmn. tp jadi inget lagi deh.. ya semoga bukan krn virus yg parah.

Pagi td sih darren msh anget.. moga ga sampe 40 derajat deh yg penting. tp ada mama n ada si ana jg jd agak tenang. Tar klo msh panas tinggi mo aku bawa ke RS Brawijaya or ke YPK. mungkin.

21 Feb 2012
mlm tadi darren msh demam.. jd jam 7 lewat kita berangkat deh ke lab sahid sahirman utk cek darah bis hp lg heng ga berhasil google cari info. kudunya sih langsung ke rs brawijaya di uob jg ada lab- mahal bo kalo ikutin yg detail dr dokt bs sampe rp 1juta cuma cek darah doang! kebetulan aku udah berangkat ngantor jam 8 jd si ma2 yg bayarin dulu deh 630rb (ada test yg di drop satu) trus yg keren, darren hebat diambil darah di pembuluh nadi ga nangis sama sekali.

Pas after lunch minta tolong ngku-nya jemput n bawa ke rs brawijaya UOB plaza. Kebetulan dr. Indah praktek juga. Duh lega deh. dr Indah info kemungkinan radang saluran pernafasan atas. bukan db bukan cikungunya, bukan flu singapore. Tp memang sdg radang dg CRP 7 lbh dr normal. Ya memang demamnya jg tinggi sih. Ya semoga aja deh bukan sakit yg serius. darren diksh antibiotik lagi deh krn radangnya cukup parah. ini lg bobo darren msh anget nih badannya. udah 4 hari begini nih. tp memang ga separah waktu minggu senin sampe tinggi demamnya. skrg udah lbh better ga panas bener. Only hope that God will heal darren. Get well soon darren!
seneng ketemu dokt yg baek.. dokt-nya sampe telp ke hp & jelasin semuanya! she is trully a dedicated person. darren dpt obat batuk racik, obat flu, obat antikembung, sama antibiotik nih. beda deh sm dokt umum or dokt anak yg prnh kita temui. waktu darren diperiksa, kan aku di kntr cuma info aja.. dokternya whatsapp-an juga sama aku. she is trully modern deh klo dokt lain mana ada yg mau whatsapp-an sm ortu pasiennya. ada satu dokt di klinik zeissta sini aja di sms @whatsapp ga dijawab.. and she is trully wonderful bis obat batuk dr dokt specialist paru aja kalah manjur ngobatin batuk. Thank GOD & may GOD bless her abundantly!

darren mlm msh demam cuma dah sekitar 38. Yg agak kuatir denger detak jantung darren lumayan cepet, sempet kaki tangannya dingin. contact terus sama dr. Indah tadinya smpt diminta rawat inap ke rs brawijaya tp krn jauh n dah mlm juga papanya ga di rmh ya ga jadi. Lagian terakhir minum obat kmrn jam 2.30 sore jd normal malemnya darren bangun n ta ksh paracetamol deh. pagi setelah minum obat sih dah badung lg jg dia mo sekolah.

27 Jan 2012

congratulation darren! today i received a phone call that u won the school competition.. yet i still don’t know exactly what is specificly thought this time u won the singing competition
mama n papa are so proud of u..

he is the winner of singing competition in his class. darren will hv to compete with other school next feb. will ask papa to help compete with darren @home :p

New Year 2012

it’s now the 2nd day of year 2012. i am grateful i have darren & papa in my life. Im grateful for the happiness n blessings we receive from You Lord.

mom is back with us again today. thank GOD for darren’s nanny. We will hv darren’s 3rd bday celebration next week @school & @church. quite hectic with d preparation..

darren has visited his opa oma n thaima in bgr. good for him to get to know opa muk cause he only knows oma ama. n he got a chance to know aunt etnah bebel & duty.. as usual from thaima he got lots of cute toys.. We visited opa Men & fam, and teji nini. She has this tumor on her face that’s been went through twice surgeries. Next hope somewhere mid year she will hv a chance to hv it removed again. Ati & Mike will deliver her baby daughter soon. we visited bu RT in griya n got the moving letter from her hopefully enough to process new id card here.

we pray for darren’s thaima that GOD will recover her condition. sometimes she lost her mind cause of her 95-years-old age. Looks like she is trapped caught up by her age. can only pray that GOD would still give her chances to know n believe in Jesus. we pray that GOD will send His angels surrounded her and help her through out each days with hope & happiness. that every & each day GOD will keep her body mind & soul in His faithful hands. once i prayed for her n she said “po pi peng an.. po pi peng an.. thai pekong” i knew her trying to pray for me too.. love her so much & sad to see her condition but grateful we still have her here in this world. GOD has given her long ages. Can only pray that ii will hv more love & patience to take good care for her.

from ama he got new remote jeep n fire-fighter outfit.
darren really likes drawing. Lately he did the cat & the butterfly, the lion, and the pig.
He will compete in singing n coloring competition. i’m not able to bargain with the school. darren not allowed to join drawing competition cause it’s only for kindergarten kids n not allowed for kiddy1. quite unusual. As far as i know he prefer drawing n color his drawing rather than only coloring.

Latest progress on darren: he’s able to sleep without pampers n ga ngompol! at night or during the nap time..
Huah! he can always ask for pee if he wants to pee..
darren is really a baby who’s been disciplined & no difficulties in teaching him anything. never a poo @pampers since he’s a baby.. we always set time for him to poo in the morning. for poo he will always inform us previously if he wants to poo.
2-years-old darren is still using pampers at night only because we are afraid of our bed get wet n stink :p thanks to mommy bintang who shares about the waterproof mattress. we found the 70% discount waterproof mattress (final price idr 270.000) eversince we hv the mattress really not worry n we can hv darren to sleep without pampers.. It’s a relieve that now he is really finalized all his training.. we taught darren to use potty since he’s able to walk.. n then he can use toilet for poo. he’s now a grown up kid who want to proof himself “im big. i can do all things by myself!”
He even can use real scissors by himself

i hv not yet noted an update about novi. She got pregnant n her husband does not allow her to continue her job. she informed me 2nd week of Jan that she will resign.. n we hv no preparation. thank GOD on the 11th we hv had her replacement. novi memang lbh sigap tp yg baru ini lbh nurut dan bisa dikasih tau… (novi kan bossy & susah dikasih tau or diajarin krn dia memang pinter tp gitu deh susah terima feedback orgnya)
and quite surprising the new nanny is good at cooking! she’s 25-years-old born on 1986.

Last Quartal of 2011

Oct 2, 2011

darren today: “Papa, ini buat apa??” 100x (pas lg bikin telor dadar sm papa), darren tanya mulu nih skrg.. ttg kompor listrik, ttg ini itu.. sptnya darren bakal spt papa suka masak

trus darren nyanyi: “topi aya bundar, bundar topi aya.. Nenek udah tua.. Giginya inggal ua!!! ” kok campur yah lagunya?? irama sih sama tp ga nyambung :p

Lg di JPCC nih kebaktian sore. Jeffrey Rachmat: subject : ‘Honor’
- berikan yg terbaik buat Tuhan!
- ‘If u want to get the best out of people try to honor the person.’
- u can’t help a person that do not want to be helped.

Seharian di rmh bobo mostly krn kecapean kmrn sabtu ke CP – kntr papa sampe almost 12pm. smpt baca2 gratis di gramed..
Buku “Nenek Hebat dr Saga”:
Kebaikan sejati adl kebaikan yg dilakukan tanpa diketahui oleh si penerima kebaikan. Jd keinget dan pengen nulis juga ttg my grandma she has taught me good things by her actions n not by words. She is a good role model.

4th Oct 2011
www.iesjakarta.org
Special Family Unit -IES Life Group
7.30pm – 10pm
@joy n lynard home
Got there, brought some klengkeng.. Had some delicious fetucini pasta n chicken for our dinner.. thanks to Joy! then we sang together a song from hillsongs.. Watching a video where pastor Dave taught us about 2nd commandment.. really happy to get to get 2know this couple: joyful Joy & loving Linard, christian Christine n reasonable Retno.
Us: brainy Brian & pretty Pei Pei :p

1st commandment:
“I am the LORD your GOD, who rescued u fr the land of Egypt…. You must not have any other god but me”
Love Your GOD with all your heart. 1st priority. Responsibility: need to be passed on through generations. If we love GOD it means we will obey GOD’s commands.
Key words: Love n obey
My prayer:
dear LORD help us to prioritize You in our life. i want to love You, i want to obey You. i praise n worship You!!!
we want to love n live according to Your words.

2nd commandment:
You must not make for urself an idol of any kind, or an image of anything in the heavens or on d earth or in the sea. u must not bow down to them or worship them, for I the LORD your GOD, am a jealous GOD.
GOD is jealous GOD
Worshipping Him is for our own benefit.
HE is our source of strength.
True way of worshipping Him is to worship Him in spirit and in truth.
Stone, wood or metal can not be used to make a representation of our living GOD. Do not put limit on Him.
Key word: worship, spirit n truth
it’s really a blessing to know little Ysaiah. If we ask her “where’s Jesus?” she will tell “Jesus is in my heart”
and she will point by her hands n her mom will say “In your armpit??” she will say “no!! in my heart!!”
so true!! thank You Jesus, that u want to be with us, You live in our heart.
Lately when u ask darren, “Darren where is Jesus??” He will say “Jesus is in my heart!”

5th commandment:
Honor ur parents.. as parents we hv to discipline our children.
Sometimes i feel bad about me not being a patience mom for darren. looks like darren not happy with me. he’s about 3-years-old.. sometimes he cries a lot@his sleeps.. when he awakes he cries. Time out is good for him. Today after taking a late nap @4pm, 5 pm he woke up n cried. Long time crying without reason. But stop after i told him to stand up in d corner. Don’tknow the reason of his crying but im not able to sleep now.
This is not good for me. I don’t want ended up like mami who needs sleeping pills to go to sleep.
Why i don’t hv a good time n i feel im not capable to love. M i in the darkness?

dear LORD i need ur help. i repented really, i promise will be more patience with darren.. need ur guidance n big HELP!

Related with this one i remember i hv sinned when hating mom n dad when i was in junior high school. The feeling of unfairness still there. Should forgive my mom n treat her good from now on regardless of whatever she did to me. Should be grateful i hv grandma as my parents who has raised me up. I should pay more attention to her..

Oct 12, 2011 IES Life Group
3rd commandment:
do not misuse GOD’s name. His name is precious n as Christian we hv to bear the name of Christ.
it means all our actions our conducts should follow n reflects what Jesus.
“Taste n see the LORD is good..”
Key words: being salt n light –> so people may taste n see that the LORD is good.

Oct 16
7th commandment
Do not commit adultery. Adultery means not just physical contact but also include emotional n other things that keeps us away from having quantity n quality time with our spouse n fam.
Key word: have to ask forgiveness from GOD to heal relationships with our spouse

Oct 18
4th commandment
Remember to observe the Sabbath day
Key words: a command from GOD to get some rest after 6-working-days, to rejoice n have fellowships with GOD and with one another in the family, to have faith in Him that He will provide our every needs. As a reminder GOD has set us free from the slavery in Egypt.

Oct 22, 2011
8th commandment: Do not steal
Talked about different kind of stealing
we are to spend our time accordingly. There’re time to do our job, there’re time to be with our fam.
There are times as employer u should treat ur employees right, if u hv underpaid them u hv stolen from them.
There are times u might forget u hv borrowed something n not yet returned it, hv to return things u hv borrowed fr people

Eph 4:28
Anyone who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with their own hands, that may hv something to share with those in need.
GOD commands us to work, instead of stealing, n to be generous to those in need.

Oct 25, 2011
6th commandment: “do not murder”
Thought i passed this command because i have not n never killed anyone. Yet our discussion go through a deeper meaning. What else can be killed except living creatures?
how many times hv we killed our relationships by using angry words n felt bitterness..
Marriage life ended up with divorce because of unresolved conflicts, because they silently hate each other in their heart.
then pastor Dave taught us these 4 practical steps for reconciliation:
1. Say “i was wrong”
2. Say “i am sorry”
3. Say “i will never hurt u again”
4. ask for forgiveness “will u forgive me?”
The key word is ‘reconciliation’ !!!!
Jesus is our Great reconciler, cause He has died for our sins.
Do not sin when u’re angry.
In your anger do not sin
Don’t speak when u’re angry, don’t email when u’re angry, don’t make decision when u’re angry

Prayer Lists:
-that we would control our own anger
-that we hv d humility to ask for forgiveness
-that we can commit not to do d same ever again
-ask Jesus to heal our relationships n that He will give us grace to forgive those who hv hurt us
- pray that our fam would be an instrument of healing, that we would bring reconciliation into all our relationships.
This commandment is a very good one for me for sometimes i lost my temper.. :p

The good things from darren, he can reminds me not to get angry.. :p if i started to use angry words 4 his father he will say : “ma, jangan marah2 dong…” n give me his cute smile.
I will try to accept things @home. I hv a good husband but he’s not attentive enough to put his towel back after use..etc. what shall i do now?? it’s been 77 times i think.

Last nite darren ate his ice cream n his fav biscuits n he said: “mmmmm.. yummy!!! ” with his cute expression he has grown up so fast n so smart!! Thank GOD that we have him..

Last week of oct : Oct 29, 2011
10th commandment
Do not covet. Antidote for covetousness:
- Godliness: seek d kingdom of GOD above all else n live righteously n HE will give u everything u need
- contentment: i can do everything through Christ who gives me strength!
Godliness+contentment=wealth
- balance: need to see clearly not just what we don’t hv but what we hv that we can share with others who need it.
- thankfulness: don’t worry about anything. Instead pray about everything. Tell God about what u need n thank Him for all HE has done. Then u will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. HIS peace will guard ur hearts n minds as u live in Christ Jesus. Phil 4:6-7

1.11.11 life group – thanks to God for our brothers n sisters in Christ.
9th commandment: you must not testify falsely against ur neighbour.
Tell d truth. Witholding d truth is d same as not saying d truth. Do not speak harsh words, gossiping or slandering..Only state the facts without using angry words. Point to d problem n how to get it solved, be more specific.
Avoid saying negative destructive words to ur own fam: ‘i hate u’ etc because that’s considered falsely witness against ur own fam!

Nov 1, 2011
met dr. Gentur @rscm new place. Thank God he checked on darren’s.. Pertumbuhan tulang rahang n geliginya bgs nurut dokter..
Met several other people: one grown-up man who is having a constructive surgery, one little girl who will hv flap faring surgery, one big girl who will re-examine her head tumor surgery.
Should always give thanks to GOD, dr. Gentur reminds me.

Nov 5, 2011
OAE n tympanometry darren : no hearing problem.
We went to THT proklamasi after ST from bu Rita. we visited the monumen proklamator. darren seemed amazed by the big statues.
visited dora wedding.. good place n good food.. as usual i always admired her beauty. wish her a happy marriage!
Nov 6, 2011
Happy birthday IES!

Nov 8, 2011
Lifegroup, 8-10pm Joy has prepared sharing material about FAITH- from worry to worship.
Homework: read Habakuk. “The righteous will live by his faith.”

Step of how do we walk by faith n to have Faith:
- pray: be honest n humble in prayer, let ur request be made known to GOD. Pray consistently n persistently!!!

- process: listen, look from GOD’s perspective–> read bible, wait upon the LORD

- praise: rejoice, give thanks n worship GOD. Stop grumbling, stop complaining.

attitude:
-don’t give up!!!!!
-live by GOD’s promises! HE may not give explanation but HE gave His promise.
His promise to me: “i will never leave you nor forsake u”
-positive surrender, believe HE will not withhold something that is good from us. if HE did not answer our prayer, believe that HE will give us other things even better than what we hv asked for!

Nov 10
I don’t know why n the reason i did a positive action in my surrender to Him. because i know HE is there for us when we’re down.
Trying my best to explain.. i hope im doing d right thing..

Nov 12
darren pertama kali ikutan lomba mewarnai ikut yg kelompok bermain di st theresia open house..
lmyn dpt juara harapan ii.. dpt piala sm kado n voucher.. Heee thanks GOD
Waktu pengumuman darren dah ngantuk n kudu ke ST juga lg..

Nov 13
ocean dream samudra ancol, kangen sm dolphin singa laut n binatang, jd cuma nonton dolphin n satwa doang this time ga nonton 4D n lainnya. kalo mo swimming bareng dolphin mahal nih! Paket utk 3 orang rp. 1.500.000,- selama 30 menit doang!!
kudu cari temen dulu deh.. 2 org lg nih
Papanya darren ogah ga mau..!! tar deh tanya2 dulu..

Nov 16-17
Lg agak lega di kntr ada progress yg mulai positif.. praise GOD thanks GOD!!!
These days i’m so happy really happy because I believe HE is GOD that’s not blind.. or maybe because of our chain-prayer? im lifting up my hands to You Lord.. i humble myself before U! I rejoice in You LORD!

Still on waiting.. dec 20 we hv xmas dinner n it was so fun!!!! we exchanged gifts.. the friendship’s d nice part. thank You Lord for giving us a special xmas this year. hope to learn to be more diligent to pray and praise His holy name.. hope to learn to love in a true way..

A-true-life-story

She’s young and beautiful.. She’s about 22-years-old.. though she’s a widower.

when we first met on Feb i was about to interview her. We hope to find someone who can help me with darren n do the housework.. she’s not asking how many rupiahs she will be paid.. i only told her if she would like to work with me i only hope she will be dilligent, honest n do her best. and i did found she has done her job well done n i hv rewarded her above the usual rate.

she amazed me on her 1st day – our toilet is so clean as we have had a-professional-cleaning-service. She really did the job well done.

She asked me whether she is allowed not to stay overnight, i said ok if it’s what she wants. She is nice n very patience with darren, very accountable for her job and i don’t even hv to tell her to do this n that.. Even my mom adores her a lot! This is unique because all this time there’s none of our nannies or maid have been accepted in the eye n my mom’s heart. she is giving all herself to her job n her attitude is good that i consider her as someone special.

She told me her story.. 1st time she’s running away from her school n went to jakarta to get a job was when she’s about 14-years-old. and about 3-years-ago she has been raped in the juanda train station.. she’s been offered a drink n she forgot about anything and that’s where she got her 1st son Rehan.. they actually got married after the case.. But her husband also has his 1st wife n fam..so at that time they hv separated but not officially had a divorce.

She’s trully honest about her life. She shared with me her story.. That in her previous job she’s handling being a personal assistant to a model and her boss’s side-jobs which is involving the dark world.. made her living a life with no peace.. As result the money came from the activities are usually gone without any trace.. n that when she’s trying to get out of that world it’s really difficult n have caused her a tragic accident where she lost her vision riding her motor-cycle with her mom n her son. It’s like something blocked in her way.. n there she tried to save her son she fell, her teeth can’t be saved n almost her jaws open.. and several broken bones. she was just recovered from the accident when she start to work for us. She said she is happy to have left the dark world behind, and that she is thankful for her current job.

Once she told me one more of her previous job as an assistant in the apotics in kelapa gading n that she has ran away from there because she’s been treated as girl friend of her boss. that she’s been given a maid a car n a driver but then she refused to be her couple. She chose the right choice in that case according to me, though it must be tough for her to choose a life without support instead of a life in abundance..
don’t really know if all her stories are true or not but seemed she’s telling me the truth about her life.

1st day in the 2nd week of September 2011, she’s fainted when she’s supposed to accompany darren @school. Thought she was sick.. She went home n three days she asked her good friend to take care of darren. I visited her to her dorm before she leaves. A very small n hot room with no bed. She said she needs some time off n would stay with her family in cililin to recover herself. In fact that is not the truth.

She told me the truth on Saturday 17th of Sept by sms. her trully condition is that she has just found out that she’s pregnant. That she has gone through 2nd unwanted pregnancy because of her own fool. At that time she informed me she’s in madiun n that she will get married soon. Then she told me that her boy friend is a-married-man n and that she will not be able to get married to him because d boy friend’s 1st wife also in 2nd pregnancy.. there’s no way he can afford both of his wives n fam if she insisted to be married to him. I was just shocked n quickly try to get new nanny for darren. and there mba novi darren was back. We picked her up on sunday 18th of Sept. We thank GOD for this.

She’s out there somewhere.. she’s going back to ngawi to her parents.. without telling them her true condition that she’s pregnant. She said to me at first that she will hv an abortion and that she will have to wait till 7 th of october related with this process. That she’s depending on his boy friend that was looking for a help at that time.
I only told her that abortion is a practice that is not allowed by any religion.. She’s alone and confused.. She also told me that her boy friend wants her to keep her pregnancy, but he’s not involving his parents or his family on this.

Oct 11, 2011 i sms her again asking about her condition. She is currently in jakarta n was thrown away by her family. she has told them her pregnancy n they could not accept her.

Previously by sms she said she has no family here and that she wish to just die, yet it’s good she still remember about Rehan. So now i am trying to find a new job for her. i hope all will be ok for her n her children. no news about her boy friend. I wonder if we can do something to help her. Im trully confuse how.. I can’t just replace current nanny novi with her.. Will be unfair for novi.

I wonder why such a good person like her can go through these kind of things twice.. (related with her pregnancy n her relationship with married men that she probably didn’t know about). Why men are not being honest to her?? That’s probably because of her beauty?
Wonder why such things happen to her. both my mom and my mother-in-law are surprised too because she’s too kind and too beautiful.. feel so unfair for her to face this same things twice.

It’s not that i agree with pre-marital sex. I hv told her that being a widow she has to be very careful not to fall again. Her first case is because she was raped. but 2nd case is because of a pre-marital sex.

I wonder why lots of unwanted children should suffer. That’s a fact we face in our current world. some churches provide ‘windows of life’ to take good care of the unwanted babies in other countries.

9pm we finally hv met tonite, she was accompanied by her friend. I see her.. She’s in good state n still keep her pregnancy and that she tried to find a job but no one wants her.
My neighbour has just got a new born baby n i thought she’s looking for someone to help her. So i asked her to come by n they talked.. hope she will soon get the job. Has to wait some period of time. We will miss her n her job.. but i have let her being with her new job.. In fact i hope someday she can still work for us again. Hv asked novi she doesn’t want her to help her doing houseworks. we can’t hv them both. So hv to let go of her. May she be tough n she will be ok.

Oct 26, 2011
Tom morning she will leave to bgr by train. She’s still trying to formalize her 2nd marriage @KUA last week but not yet succeeded. Actually im worried about her condition she said she’s checking her baby n not in a good condition. Have told her to forget his boyfriend n never to put her hope again on him. Unuseful n not good for her. Hope she can focus on her new job in bgr, i only ask her to work diligently n being honest.

2-years-9-months

My baby is really grown up. About 88cms, 13kgs. He can wear socks by himself, he can play canooing @funworld, he can do coloring, singing, drawings, he can states what he wants.

Regular weekly speech therapy is still ongoing. Bu Rita said he needs to practice at home but really is difficult to do that.
He is in kiddy one, kinderfield. 3-times-a-week from 8-10. Term 1(first 3 months) has passed. He learnt about songs, different kinds of animals.. colors n we as parents have been taught about how to spell a letter as basic to read.
Im learning to be patient. Patience is the key to deal with toddlers. Shien reminds me to keep loving him, put our attentions, n to be a good role model for darren. It’s parenting. It’s not about his cleverness, he’s a smart boy i know. It’s not about seeing his perfection as human.
Mid sept 2011 nanny siska ga bs terusin ngasuh. jd coba telp novi yg dulu dan untung dia memang lg cari kerja. Tp sejak dm novi beda kondisi. darren jd bobo kebangun trus nangis2. Pusing deh nih. Auranya beda sih antara siska n novi. Siska seorang yg sabar n mengabdikan dirinya, novi lbh bnyk rame n ceplas ceplos. Mama n mami still stated Siska is their favorite one..

pilah2 playgroup buat anak

Pilah2 Playgroup di daerah Jakarta

barusan survei ke PlayGroup St. Theresia Jakarta
yang di daerah menteng:
Uang pangkal : 12.5jt, include playgroup up to TK B
uang bulanan Rp. 750rb per month
1 minggu 3 kali, pk 7.30-10.00 pagi

Kalau mau masuk langsung TKA
Uang Pangkal Rp. 11 juta, uang sekolah Rp. 750 rb per month
Seminggu 5 hari, Senin-Jumat
dengan tambahan uang wajib tahunan Rp. 1.8juta

playgroup di kinderfield
uang pangkal rp 5 juta lagi diskon 50%
uang tahunan rp 1.5 juta
uang 3 bulanan Rp. 3 juta dg kondisi seminggu 3x
kalo TKA uang 3 bulanan jadi Rp. 5.5 juta dg kondisi seminggu 5x

nah mau coba dilihat nih.. kalo pake transport cost
sepertinya memang lebih pas milih sekolah yang terdekat..

catetan penting

anak kecil sariawan ternyata heboh.. hehehe.. ga mau sikat gigi, ga mau pake obat, ga mau makan.. nangis terus, tidur kebangun terus.. kasian deh! lidahnya jadi putih krn ga sikat gigi..

obatnya pake mycostatin or candistin kalo udah lidah putih krn mungkin jadi banyak bakteri/jamur di mulut. obat tahan sakitnya terpaksa dikasih yg masih ada stok di rumah ibuprofen.. hr ini saya sediain paracetamol syrup. kenalog katanya bisa ngobatin.. aloclair gel masih ada tp susahnya bukan main ngobatinnya. darren sama sekali ga mau. cari aloclair obat kumur blm dapet nih.. di google sih ada nih.. tapi kudu mesen online pastinya sih agak lama sampe..

Mid April yg heboh

april ini heboh sekali. nulis di wordpress jadi ga keliatan tulisannya putih semua. (ini lagi edit sih udah berubah lagi jadi normal kondisinya hehehe..)

siska pengasuh darren yg udah kerja dari Feb 2011 kemarin kena sakit tipes. mungkin karena terlalu cape,makan ga bener.. kena bakterikurang minum.. jadilah tipes. kebetulan juga Fanie kena tipes jg. agak ada gejala tipes juga nihrasanya saya. lemes, batuk kering… agak diare..

obatnya nurut mama sih makan cacing tanah (ini cacing waktu jalan2 ma darren di rumah bogor pernah ketemu nih.. warnanya coklat ungu, di bagian lehernya ada bentuk gelang, berbuku-buku). dulu mama info cerita pengalaman si papa yg kasih resep ke driver. krn mama info memang kadang ga ada merk cuma info ke toko obat biasanya mereka ada persediaan yg udah dikapsul, ada yg ada merk tp lbh mahalan.. trus jadi aku tanya mami. mami info ada yg di kapsulin yg 100% cacing tanah itu merknya fermino
ternyata cacing tanah punya daya antibakteri yg bagus juga bisa ademin badan krn hidup di tanah
nah pokok jadinya semua sibuk deh. mana darren jg kena demam batuk flu. ketularan mama kita semua termasuk rian. hr sabtu 16 Apr kemarin ke RS YPK habis hampir rp 800rb cuma buat demam batuk flu darren !!ygbener aja deh resep dr. Rina emang parah. atau mungkin karena salah hitung obat kali nih.. si papa beneran deh terima-terima aja heran..

jadi sptnya bakal cari dokter anak baru buat darren.. dpt info dr mamanya naya sih dr. Triana di RS Jakarta orgnyabagus dan ga mata duitan. dia dokter yg kasih resep obat yg manjur dan ekonomis. we have to try..

bsk darren ada acara pake baju batik dan anak perempuan pake baju daerah. pasti hebohnih.. @office lagi busy ngurus dokumentasi e-training bantuin memberikan pengarahan dan feedback buat Andi.. trus jg lg bikin BOK BSB downstream.. ttg bonus, hari ini ada info dari kantor yah tapi sih saya mah kaga dapet feedback dari babeh.. begitulah.. cuma bisa berharap sama Tuhan aja deh. waiting for a miracle! saya jg sih yg udah tawar hati duluan. saya tuh udah kasih yg terbaik ngerjain yg terbaik di kantor. kalo kondisi kayak gini complaint juga mungkin ga ada artinya paling saya bakal usul improvement2 spy penilaian bs lbh objektif dapet feedback dari org yg tepat.

darren udah beneran jadi anak gede loh.. michael temennya di sekolah di kelas yg lebih kecil ultah. sama coach ditanya siapa yg mau kasih hadiah buat michael maju ke depan.. darren langsung tunjuk tangan maju ke depan nyanyi hehehe.. darren lg suka nyanyi ke depan “twinkle twinkle”/”old mc donald.. /”cicak cicak di dinding”.. :p good for him.darren jg lg suka main puzzle beneran yg real. selain game di ipad yg bejibun banyaknya diinstalin papa, darren suka main susun2.. kalo di mall darren dah bisa ngajak mau ke sana mau kesini.. mostly darren pasti histeris kalo liat kereta api muter di mall.. atau tempat main anak2. trus kalo denger lagu di vcd yg darren suka, langsung deh joget2 :p

mama papa seneng ngurus darren sabtu minggu.. beneran deh!! cape tapi seneng.. kmrn itu darren pinter makan nasi pake ayam, disuapin papa.. maunya suapin sendiri.. di rumah juga makan nasi pake buncis tumis + abon mau2 aja.. sampe sempet darren mungkin kesenengan, ke bawa mimpi darren buka mulut “aaaaaa…” hehehe

tadi pagi darren bangun tau2 minta digendong mama menuju kulkas minta es krim. “ekim” katanya.. mau ga mau deh mama kasih darren es krim pagi2.. pdhal hidung masih meler.. batuk jg semua nih blm sembuh2.. geleng-geleng kepala deh mama. darren teh baru umur 2 th lebih 4 bulan nih. udah bisa komentar ini itu.. liat cucian mama di xing, darren komentar.. cuciannya banyak amat..sambil tarik nafas. tau mama lg jemurbaju darren berusaha bantuin mama.. ngambilin bajunya dari mesin cuci buat di jemurin hihihi si darren nih beneran udah tmbh gede aje..

kalo malem yg paling seneng dikerjain lompat2 di ranjang persis rabbit. kita kasih julukan darren sekarang darren the rabbit

seminggu yg seru

sabtu tgl 5 kemaren sih maunya ngambil siska jadi permanen. tp di jalan aku omelin tuh anak bis jumat malem pulangnya malem lagi. ya trus alhasil kaga jadi permanen deh.. baru pernah nemu babysitter yg pinter renang sampe tiap malem dia berenang pulang jam 10 kadang jam 11.

ada kejadian gini bagus jg sih jadi ngurus darren sendiri.. senen sampe rabu mama ngurus darren di rumah sendiri.. kamis jumat mama and mami kompak pisan ngurus darren berdua.. agak lega krn pas rabu malem sptnya udah nemu pengganti. siska juga namanya. ya semoga aja semua berjalan smooth. di kantor jg sama.. padahal hari rabu itu yah.. aku dah hopeless tp di jalan coba terus mengucap syukur tau2 malah dikasih jalan sama Tuhan. thank GOD ketemu bu Iis.. bu Iis teh orang yg jujur dan baik.. aku tanyain brp nih bu.. ibu dah kenalin saya sama siska, dia cuma jawab ga usah bu.. saya mah udah seneng bisa bantuin ibu saling ketemu. siska jg lagi cari kerjaan dan ibu semoga cocok yah.. gitu jawabnya.. ya semoga keluarga bu Iis dikasih banyak berkat tambahan.. amin

kamis dan jumat juga kita nyoba dinner di luar. hee.. mumpung lagi ngumpul sekalian ngerayain xin jia. juga ada moment diskon kartu. jadilah kita malem2 pergi2 terus. lumayan cape tapi seneng. thank GOD ada mama and mami!